Top Tips – How To Develop Self-Confidence
There is no doubt that self-confidence underpins many things that we do throughout our lives, and success is something that certainly feeds off self-confidence. As you embark on a career, particularly in a role such as sales or recruitment, it is important to believe in yourself. Without the ability to believe in everything you do and the decisions that you make, success could prove difficult.
While it is extremely important to have people believe in you, if you do not have the belief in yourself then there is no impetus to even attempt to try or if you do try, then you will simply have a feeling that you will never succeed anyhow. This type of thinking can lead to a spiral effect that can have a negative impact in other ways and so, having a small amount of belief can make a significant difference.
This kind of mind-set is seen regularly in sales people. One prime example of this would be the way in which you approach having a coffee with a prospect. If you have the belief that a coffee is completely off their radar, you might find that you ask them in a negative way – “You wouldn’t like to meet for a coffee next week, would you?” When you look back at that sentence, it is clear to see that it begins negatively and is hardly showing a prospect that you are keen to meet with them.
In contrast to this, if you have belief in yourself, then you would be assertive but also positive in the way that you ask – “it has been great chatting with you, let’s meet for a coffee next week”. This will instantly deliver a message to the prospect and make them feel as though you value their time and that they will benefit from meeting with you.
Developing that all-important self-confidence
Self-confidence can be created through the understanding of three key aspects:
1. Self-confidence is delivered through a combination of:
- A true belief in your worthiness and that you are valuable to others
- You are strong in the face of failure, despite a real belief that you can handle the situation in hand
2. It is important to understand that when it comes to having a strong will and mind-set, you also need to have self-confidence and that is completely within your control. How you think will actively play a part in the way you feel and so, confidence is supported by feeling and thinking confidently.
3. Understanding that beliefs are more powerful than thoughts because if you think something for long enough, you will end up believing in it. When you consider individuals who have been radicalised, often their actions derive from a belief that what they are doing is right because they have thought about it over and over.
The true understanding of what is required to build and enhance your self-confidence becomes clear when you bring these three points together. It is vital that you constantly tell yourself that you are worthy and that you can deal with situations as they arise.
If you consider an interview situation, positive thoughts and beliefs will be obtained through:
- Believing that they have invited you to interview because they like you profile and think that you are of value to them.
- Even if you are unfortunate enough to be unsuccessful in getting the job, that you have the self-confidence to handle it. It is not the end of the world but any feedback you receive will certainly make you a stronger candidate in future interviews.
It is often too easy to think negatively and having those exact thoughts can cause them to manifest into something that can be more difficult to control. However, if you want a high level of self-confidence, then you really need to take control of your thinking and have the positive thoughts required to take you on that journey. Therefore, now is the time to channel your thoughts towards positivity and then begin to reap the rewards!